He Love Me? He Loves Me Not? 30 Love Signs 30 Ways to Tell

Does he love me? How can you tell if he’s in love with you? Forget what he says. You have to look at what he does. Check out these 30 signs. “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.” Poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning listed all the ways she showed her love in just 14 lines, but she was a genius. For the rest of us, it’s harder to come out and say that we’re in love, and this is especially true for men. (Notice that it was a woman counting the ways in her poetry!). So, how can you tell if he’s in love with you? Forget what he says. You have to look at what he does. As Marilyn Monroe said, “The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.” Actions speak louder than words. Still not convinced? Check out the list below to see all the ways he might be showing his love every day.

The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.30 Signs He’s in Love with You

  • He gives you advice. Men show they care by solving problems, even if you didn’t ask for help.
  • His body is turned toward you, even if he’s looking at someone else. If his chest is facing you, he’s into you (even if he’s pretending not to be).
  • He opens doors for you. Anything that shows he’s on his best behavior means he’s willing to go the extra mile to impress you.
  • He touches you when introducing you to his friends. Sure, this body language is a throwback to caveman times when he would display his ownership of you, but now it’s a subconscious sign he loves you–and he wants his friends to know it.
  • He calls. Texting is modern, but an old-fashioned phone call shows that he loves the sound of your voice.
  • He cooks for you. Providing nourishment is one of the most fundamental ways humans care for one another. If he’s serving up homemade linguini, he’s definitely in love.
  • He asks about your job. Shop talk can be boring, but when he loves you, he wants to understand what’s important to you.
  • He brings you flowers, or any other classic gift. Men tend to get traditional when they want to show their love. Embrace it.
  • He apologizes. It takes a real man to admit he’s wrong, but when he’s in love, he’s motivated to do it.
  • He loves your cats (or dogs, or tarantulas). When he accepts your furry friends, you can be sure he’s in it for the long haul.


  • He writes you a poem, song, or letter. Getting creative and putting his feelings into words is a major sign that he’s in love.
  • He wants to meet your family. This is a huge step that shows he’s committed to being in your life.
  • He doesn’t notice when you’re not wearing makeup. In fact, he prefers it. This shows how much he likes the real you, even when you’re not made up.
  • He asks you for advice. When he cares what you think about the important things, it’s a major sign of love and respect. Asking for help also shows that he’s not afraid to look a little vulnerable in front of you.
  • He offers to do the grocery shopping or run other household errands. This shows he’s invested in making sure your life together runs smoothly. If he knows what you need without asking, he’s definitely been paying attention.
  • He’s unselfish in bed. Caring as much about your pleasure as his own is a major sign of love.
  • He likes your friends, or at least pretends to. When he loves you, he knows it’s important to get along with the other people you love.
  • He takes your side in an argument. Even if he doesn’t agree, he’ll jump to your defense when he’s in love.
  • He’ll do the heavy lifting for you. One way a man shows his love is by doing chores that require physical strength. When he volunteers to do some hard work for you, take it as a sign of affection (he doesn’t mean to imply that you can’t do it yourself!).


  • He lets you sleep in. If he wakes up first, he’ll find something else to do so that you get your full rest to be your best self.
  • He genuinely likes to cuddle, whether it leads to something more or not.
  • He runs his hands through his hair. This is a subconscious gesture common in primates called “preening,” meaning he’s looking his best for his mate.
  • He compliments you. This is the most basic way to show you he cares. The more he does it, the more in love he is.
  • He smiles when he looks at you, because he just can’t keep his feelings inside.
  • He cleans up after himself. When he cares about you, he respects your place.
  • He makes plans with you. Short-term or long-term, including you in his future means he’s in love.
  • He’ll break a bad habit for you. Change isn’t easy, but if he’s willing to try, it shows he cares.
  • He lets you take the driver’s seat, in the car and in life. When he’s in love, he trusts you completely.
  • He’ll give you the shirt off his back to wear as pajamas, and he’ll think you wear it better.
  • He tells you. After all, nothing says “I love you” like those three little words.


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